I once knew a girl and a boy. She was the sort of girl you’d see in an indie film, a girl that needed saving from herself, her past and from the life she had been given, and he was the sort of boy who was intoxicated by her presence and thought he could save her. I think she thought he could too. But I saw how he would do anything he could for her, and she would ask him for the world and if he could he would give it to her. I saw how he became besotted by her, intoxicated by her, and yet I think she cared for him. Deeply. But she thought he was there to save her and for moments he did, but this is real life not films and he couldn’t save her, couldn’t do what she wanted him to do. And then when they went on different paths in life; they broke up.
I once knew a girl and boy. She was bright and kind and a friend to everyone, he was the same but in a different way. He was a friend to everyone, he was kind, he was unpredictable, he chased the dangerous. I watched as their friendship became something more. I watched as his eyes turned away from his girlfriend and starting seeing her in that way. I watched as they smiled, I watched how they flirted, I watched them get together. I watched them become consumed with one another. I watched how they smiled together and fell for one another. But I also saw and heard how she wanted to save him. Save him from his own demons, save him from his recklessness and chasing danger. I saw him want to change and he tried. The problem is he thought he was immortal, or at least pretended he was, and she was too kind to see it. And saving someone isn’t possible when the person isn’t truly ready to be saved. And then they went on different paths in life.They broke up. When they did, his demons consumed him, and he isn’t the same.
I once knew a girl and boy. She was sweet and kind, innocent and hurting. He was a stranger to me, but he seemed nice and funny and cared for her. They rarely saw each other, constantly dancing around one another, never letting go and never ceasing the moment. The problem is they desperately wanted each other, or rather, they desperately wanted the idea of each other. She liked the idea of him, liked the idea of having him by her side, but the reality didn’t get her heart racing, it didn’t save her or distract her from her pain. It took her far too long to realise that. To realise she wanted the idea but he wasn’t it. And so she decided to go on a different path. They broke up. She became more relaxed, it hardly hurt her at all, if anything her eyes went straight back to searching for the idea that she craved.
I once knew a girl and boy. She was funny, beautiful, strong, but insecure and trying so hard not to shatter. He was the sort of boy who didn’t realise how bright the sun shone until he was looking somewhere else. They met before her life broke and before she was trying to keep it together, holding tightly onto the strings. She saw only the good in him, was falling too fast to see the bad. He made her feel special, made her feel something, and she was falling. He liked her, no doubt about that, but he had been burnt before and he was careless and wanted everything he couldn’t have. But she was strong enough to not let herself be unappreciated. She gave him a second chance. He lost that second chance, because he wanted his cake and to eat it too. He consumed her thoughts and no matter how many times she tried to hate him she couldn’t. He knew how to tug on her heart, to manipulate her emotions, she never knew if she had fallen for him. I don’t think she did, she doesn’t think so either but she always wonders. But that isn’t what love is, she’ll realise that when she truly finds. it. And they were on different paths in life. Both were each other’s weakness but they were not each other’s strength. She deserved much better than him, and with time she realises that.
I once knew a girl and a boy. She was brilliant and creative and caring but so very unhappy. The kind of unhappy that consumes you but also comes out in the worst ways. He was shy, and awkward, but cared deeply about so many things. Cared so deeply about her it made him a fool. He was her first love, and at first it was exciting and new and brilliant but it also wasn’t what she expected. She thought love was different, she wanted it, no, she needed it to be the way she thought it was meant to be. But he showed loved differently and she couldn’t always see it. She dreamt of something more, and sometimes she tried to seek it. She made mistakes, and he forgave her, not once, not twice, but every time. He was a fool and she was unhappy. She’d tell herself and everyone she was in love, and perhaps she was, maybe she is, sometimes she is, but it’s not enough to save her. They’ve spoken about breaking up. I think they need to. Because she needs the love that she craves, but she can’t get it from anyone but herself. She wants to be saved, but refuses to see how. She wants a quick fix, not ready to truly try. Because truly trying means letting go and learning to love herself.
I know a lot of girls and a lot of boys. And I watch. I watch what this idea of love and relationship does to them. I see how it changes people, how it consumes them. I see the beauty, but I also see the cracks and the ugly. They see it through rose tinted glasses, I see it through a cracked window. They want to see the good in it, I’m just waiting to see the bad.